Always we Go for the Better! Why!

    Better, Better and better. That's what we used to hear from our parents and superiors. We keep on working on different objects to make things better, to go things better and better. Because we think that is the destiny we have set in our mind. Thing is that human being never tries to go against his restless and inquisitive spirit. He always have an tendency to go for better and choose the better and search the better. I never go against this optimistic behaviour of the human being. Sometimes searching for better gives frustration and failure which always lead to various mental agony. What is the solution. here?

   Simple it is. Compromise with your run for the better objects. Stop the process of searching sometimes to enjoy the stickiness of the idle time. Spend sometime to really enjoy the things that you have acquired till now. Because we have leading life not always to make it better, but to lead it in a way that we love. I feel ,pleasure not always comes by effort but always by the way you live for yourself and for others. The word Better does not always mean to enrich your account or enhance your perfection about a domain it particularly does include your life partner you choose. Some people get a lot of choice, some get few and some get none. Those who get a lot of choice always try to compare things like a bargain in the daily-market and spend their time to find the better one. But it never stops for which there occurs mix  up among all.

   One thing I want to advise strictly not to believe the coincidence you find in your life. we always mistook the coincidences as God's gift which is not always true. I have met a lot of coincidences which I really expect to happen. And also on regular basis. But that never worked or will never, because they are just  the overestimation of the emotions we possess. Remember coincidences never lead to your fate.

Somethings About Crossed Palms...

       I know this topic is quite unusual topic to discuss, but I feel the essence of the topic is very interesting and sometimes useful also. All through our life sometimes we must have heard about the body language, behavioural analysis and all those HR related stuffs. I analysed some real time facts when a human being is in a position when his/her hands or palms crossed one over the other. 

      I had this idea when I observed Amitabh Bachhan having so much of experience of presentation and starting the KBC with deep sigh and long breath with opening the crossed palms lightly to open the presentation to the audience. What I refer from it is that the change of amplitude of the excitement and interest of the presenter matters a lot during any promotion or presentation, which I saw the opening of two palms by Mr. Bachhan in KBC. I often see The U.S. president Mr. Obama starts his speech the same way as above.

     During one to one conversation with a new person closing your palms one over the other shows reluctance   of the person to listen to the other. But my observation says it shows politeness and obedience of the person.

So the conversation with this kind of behavior gives complements to both the party.

     And most importantly every one will agree on my point about girls giving their shots(poses) with either one palm on the other hand or one palm on the other palm. And interestingly and compulsorily those pics become their so called matrimony-eligible pics. I will again explain the reason behind this. Girls having conservative nature , polite behaviour and somewhat possessive attitude generally give shots like this. They do respect the existing culture and fashion of the country. Again I will say my comments are only based upon my observations.

 

     Well crossed palms have their own importance in many part of life.Well I don't want to discuss the palm of the bride on the palm of the groom during marriage which is a quite usual culture of our religion and all.

Dedication: Some Serious Things I Feel...

Dedication: Some Serious Things I Feel...

Some Serious Things I Feel...

     Every great man says in  the very huge world you come alone and also go back alone. You get a very limited resource to work for yourself as well as others. The more you work for others the more renowned and special you will be in the society. Very much true it is. But you can never be motivated to work for the other so easily, as you are after all human being. Motivation for only comes when you are a satisfied entity in your personal life.

      But why is this serious discussion! I try to explain how trust comes so much of role in satisfying a person. Everyone has their own secrets , their own feelings and  own ways of understanding things. Every body has their different but still unique way of perceiving non-verbal behaviour of the person they see or stare. At the same time   he/she always searches for the person who has maximum similarity with himself/herself. But that does not always mean he becomes your friend. But he has the so called features to be eligible to be your friend whom you can share things. Again as everybody has always a internal desire to share some moments, some secrets, some serious personal happenings with some other else. The reason is again self satisfaction or intension of reducing the burden from the busiest part of life, work hours.

          Here comes the matter of trust into picture. Trust is an entity which is not built just because spending time together for a  long time but it comes from perfect comprehension of a non verbal communication, on daily basis. In these kind of relationships the strength of bond between the two is built upon only trust where you become ready to hold the hand of a person you trust and love, rather than spending time in the expecting him/her to hold yours. I mean, trust takes a person from a 'I' to 'We' thing. What I mean is when you start to deliver something from you two, there is no hesitance to say a 'We will'.

          Anyways, some people hesitate to make relationships like this because they are afraid to loose someone they trust or love in different ways. The ways are simply called either betrayal or break-ups.I wish you all a trust-worthy life...

Dedication: Experience Vs Expertise

Dedication: Experience Vs Expertise

Experience Vs Expertise

       Profession for each professional consists of some co-ordination, some compromise, some conflicts, little fun and a handful of jealousy. We always try to avoid the behaviour jealousy and re-frame it with a fruitful competitive mind. As far as I know from my small experience I have never seen competition among the entities that belong to the same batch of herd. Moreover I find there is lot of internal conflicts those keep on each day, but in a very cool manner. I may not be able to find the valid reason for the same either due to my less engagement or due to my small experience or due to the lack of my interest on the topic. Anyways it might be the common behaviour in each field of the profession.

      As far as my knowledge What I infer the unavoidable conflict or co-ordination between the experience and expertise plays the most important role in the success of any product that we deliver. The issue of conflict between the two can be within same person or can be between to different persons.

     In the first case if the person having a lot of experience in his pocket looses his eagerness to work always creates circumstances that hampers the product. Also person having small experience and having expertise in a certain area avoids help from experienced guys also creates inconsistency. 

     The lack of coordination of different groups of people , one group having experience and other having expertise without experience have different reasons of its own. From my personal experience the reason includes the following:

• People from different age groups obviously have communication gap due to various reasons like unwillingness to respect and under estimation of talents of inexperienced by the experienced.
• If the people having small experience having greater knowledge than the experienced in some areas the jealousy comes in to picture to create friction in the development
• The Ego factor of the older ones often blocks the way for them to share anything among the newer people.
• The excitement and eagerness of the inexperienced guys to complete their job before time to impress some other people always hampers quality of the product due to the least time dedication towards work.
• I will explain an deadlock situation that often happens in every day life. The lack of submissiveness of a certain mistake in either side(experienced and inexperienced) always creates a situation when they get Zero help from the other party. And the product delivery or the job stuck some where else. And third party like managers are strictly needed under the situations. 
• Deliberate display of limited knowledge sometimes create confusion among the team due to high confidence in the delivery of the words. Confusion unnecessarily spoils the time which could have utilised in fruitful work.
• Reluctance or hesitation of persons to share their knowledge never help people who could have been more productive.
• Eagerness of the experienced fellows to relax a lot of time due to their weight in the team does enhanced difficulties for the new comers.                                                                                              

     Most importantly a small but honest appreciation of one person  who is either experienced or in-experienced by the others creates some kind of real motivation among the team. So it does help for smooth   run of the difficult issues. The work environments suddenly becomes beautiful for the professional. I wish that will happen everywhere...

Which is Difficult? To Remember or To Forget

         Remember our childhood. We were given home work to do out and to remember. Yes I remember those days when it was very difficult to remember a simple word or sentence. And day after day we face situations to remember one or two pages. Now I can't deny in our engineering time we used to remember one book in one day only. Is it called a usual evolution process or it's a matter of compulsion that insists a person to do so. Yes I have gained memory power to remember things, a lot of things in small time. No matter everyone does the same thing.

        Now I think of something different than the others. Can I forget things as the same manner that I used to do in my childhood? Its a quite unusual question to put. Why does a person try to forget when there are a lot of money being wasted to remember certain things. The logic is fair enough to put here.

        But In my personal experience it's becoming even impossible to forget some moments of my life which I need, not to remember. The more I try to forget the more it chases behind me. What I think , this is one of the reasons why people are so much worried now a days. Every individual needs some of his  challenging and difficult moments to remember. At the same time he/she needs some happy, important rather ignorable moments to forget. Here comes the confusion between the quality and quantity of interest and dedication of that individual for spending that time and, the degree of his attempt to remember or forget those moments. The  

ambiguity of the thoughts creates more area in our memory. That might be the reason why people can't forget some things even if they want. These moments keep hurting us wherever we go what ever we think. It becomes the part of each thought of our life. The underground emotions which used to be dormant at one point  of time becomes a nondetachable part of our thoughts. I do not know whether it is a problem to somebody.. But by my personal experience felt it guides our life towards inevitable fate and nothing...