Always Choose whether to Generalize!

     Everybody knows that each and every object on the earth behaves uniquely, perhaps we name it differently. Each entity, living or nonliving has unique identification. That uniqueness also unique to the entity that identifies it.Fine,we now exclude the non-living entities from our discussion. We talk about the ever genius human-beings.Whenever we come across any person we create a preconceive notion about that person before any conversation even if we find hardly anytime for it. This is human tendency which insists him to think deeply into a personality that he comes across. This is what happens before the interaction. 

        The eagerness of the human being to know and to understand a person always keeps him out of the comfort zone. He always expects a lot from the talk which he never finds. But his expectation never ends. After 3 minutes    of the meeting human thinks at least 30 minutes about the person. He starts relating himself with each word he filters from the short conversation. Some great people say this human tendency to compare things, makes him active and competitive. I would agree to this but to some extent. Activeness and competitiveness do not stop you from generalizing a specific human's behaviour.  Whenever you compare the characteristics and behaviour, general idea is to perceive what you like and ignore the rest. This is what i called random suitable generalization. which always leads to loss of important data and points.

     Ok, now I explain why these random rather mostly avoided things come into my mind. If my manager indicates me to write MOM(minutes of the meeting) I will always prefer to write those points that he/she likes. that to in a precised manner. What do I do now. Even if I want I cant report the things that needs to be elaborated. Because those are out of my professional range. Advices say precise the things, so that you can be more decisive. But how can I generalize a number of people's opinion, which is quite unique as I said before. But management says ignore many to implement a single idea which may or may not be relevant and even though lots of better ideas are sent to trash.

     I will focus another instance here. Whenever we come across any girl we think and interpret a lot than to accept the facts. And we give a opinion , rather decision, which practically makes no meaning. This is also a kind of random generalization.

      Even if the management-theory roars about the generalization, I strictly criticize the idea under certain occasion...

Somethings We Can't Change...

         We are either male or female or both or neither black,white, brown or yellow with blue, grey or black eyes and straight or curly hair that reflects or absorbs light in its own fabulous or dreary way.some people live longer than us, others die around us and the only thing that connects it all, connects these things, yet is too complex to understand due to its excessive randomness.These basic facts of each of our lives which determine who and what we are and are becoming does always being neglected.

          The most concrete of these is of course the only other constant than change on this planet - death. Some will die quickly others in slow agony. some will give up, others will fight their way into oblivion and beyond, yet each person upon this plane of existence is fated to have at least one experience that is the same as each other person here.

what's the point of the story - there is none really.... or is there?

             I have realized in my wanderings that there are things about myself and my life that I cannot change.I am an engineer and I know some languages that I can't forget.I have crossed some barriers that I can't back- track even if somebody helps. The foremost important fact is that I can't generate those lovely and unforgettable moments even if I have complete access to the Oracle database.

             The flip side of the coin is that I can change the way I view my world and that in doing so, I can manifest the things I truly want and need. not through personal effort alone, but through the connectivity with the universe's energy. communicating with something or somebody that is at once everything and nothing.... Amazingly it might be easy once you open your mind to it.

                There is a peace in knowing that everything will be ok, even if it is not at the moment. its really strange, but the moment I started believing that my life will be fine and will work out exactly as it should, things became better. not necessarily because they changed, but because I looked at them through new eyes.

When Past Reminds Us Something

             I have to make my life give a comfort zone under the influence of my profession, no other way is found. Some of my past days insist me to weigh the lives before and after the border line  I just passed. I try to focus some of them with comparisons..

1. Take an instant of the Question paper of an exam. It's quite expected, but unjustified. And about the answers-Huh... again expected but never predictable. Still we secure 'Ex'. And on the other part we call the questions as scenario or tasks,which is quite expected. But for us it has some SCOPING problem in the task. Still we manage to answer perfectly. But grades, which we call appreciation gives NULL value.
2. In college Everyday in and out we talk about knowledge and intelligence  and never forget to respect or comment. but now life comes to a stage we always think about experience and nothing else.
3. We fight for a single Samosha or Bada. Now-a-days either we hate the free samosha that is availabe else Samosha has lost her beauty and vigor.
4. The habbit of early to bed( 5 in the morning) and early to rise(1afternoon) has really vanished due to the goodness of the professional life.
5. The independence of the life has really gone. We started leaning on the other to get a support. Which they say KT(Knowledge Transfer)
6. The class bunk due to early to bed( 5 in the morning) is now professionally called Sick Leave.
7. The usual timepass issues are Mithai of Lunch, Mimicry of the Bade Loags, Gardens, Malls, Towers, SOCs,PricePlans,Ban, Subscribers... Huh.....                                                              I think time has come to compromise with things which we used to hate until we get some clue to  escape from it.

Dedication: Constraints Of Life

Dedication: Constraints Of Life: " The question is: Are we in a position to differentiate between the mindset we had in our childhood and we having now? I bet..."

Constraints Of Life

                 The question is: Are we in a position to differentiate between the mindset we had in our childhood and we having now? I bet more than 50% people have least of the moments to look into the matter. Because the society in which they are brought up , the education they had, the advice they perceive, the position they have right now would never allow them to rethink it. Because as per their mindset it only wastes their valuable time and it may also give a handful of headaches and nothing less than that. Let’s try to go deep into the matter if you can.

                Way behind our intermediate education we used to be in proper guidance and care of our parents. More than half of the questions we used to ask during that time are irrelevant for us now. We can feel the diversity of types of questions we used to ask during the school days are less than that we ask during LKG or UKG level. The same thing is reflected now. Question is: Are we becoming more sensible and more intelligent so that we are now able to answer those questions easily. Else we are unwilling to face those questions again which we asked during our childhood. Else we want to concentrate on the current work more consciously than wasting our time. And at last we really run from those questions as we still have no answers to them. The accurate answer to the ambiguous question will be different for different individuals. I may explain what I feel.

               What I feel is major portion of our time is being spent on fulfilling responsibilities and equipping ourselves to live more comfortably and peacefully. We are fed in such way that we completely know and recognize things which we should not do. We are hardly taught about the areas where we should work. Before the start of any work the prime cause of excess time is we always search for the paths that we should not follow. That's what I call constraints of life. So we get a little amount of time to think which path we really should follow. Take a funny and interesting example. Whenever we look a girl we always compare the features with our expectations. She should be like this and that. We think about culture, parents, caste, language, religion, complexion, height, health and all. By the time we think what type she is, how she thinks, how much she cares, she is really gone out of the scope. Fine let's try again... Next time the same thing happens. The really sadness behind the idea is ,these things happens in our day to day life, but we are so much usual and habitual to these constraints that we think all these to be rules we should follow and we should not disrespect them. And we keep on getting into the network of constraints of life deeper and deeper. Well God help us and give us some freedom from these so called rules, I mean CONSTRAINTS we have.