The Attitude Towards A 3rd person

                          When we talk about someone so eagerly we already have one judgement on the person. The first thing is which group the individual belongs to! Either he belongs to "Us" or "Them". Then usually it begins How is he/she different from others, how much wrong is he as compared to us and why is he not in the Group 'X' and why is he in group 'Y'.if he were among "Us" then at this moment he would be with us to discuss about another person of  "Them". 

                     Well the idea is what else differentiates us from them. I am not defining the necessary parameters rather its more or less focus on how most of the times due to some assumptions , notions we actually behave differently for a particular person. Our psychology towards an individual changes mainly due to our ignorance  of his/her ways of thinking and living. We always create our notion on the basis of our own thought including the buzz of the surrounding which often creates an unreal image of that individual in side our brain and heart. Well the suggestion can be this way, We will not make our notion as our judgement so early, even before talking to him/her. Without giving ample amount of time towards the culture of one's life directly or indirectly the direct conversion of our notion into judgement is completely unacceptable. If its seems useless to spend such time we can just leave the person and go.But if it somehow interests us positively or negatively, spend some time with  some two way activities like-living together ,working together,argue together..etc Now we bridge the ambiguous gulf that once used to separate us in feeling and imagination :). Now we can be sure of the judgement we do for him/her. By spending simple hours we start to appreciate where we would have to blame, we start to love where we would have to hate. Moreover we make allowances for his/her weaknesses or strengths. And who knows there are better results of this activity which is beyond my imagination and scope. But for sure we get a better picture of a person by this and we serve the idea socialism in between :)